How to handle breaking up with someone?
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I also told him to let go. His ex-girlfriend is not the right person for him. I need to be harsh for him to let go.
Lol you don't need to be harsh on him. He didn't just wake up and started loving his ex same as he wouldn't just sleep and forget about her. It should be treated like an addiction.
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You are right. Besides the point, it is up to him to break free from being in misery.
All you can do is just to make him happy and less lonely.
Sometimes someone brokes your heart but he has right if you are going on wrong way or decision means it depends if it is someone lier or just searching for better life for you.
What mistake? Did you say bad words to your ex?
She was not ex in real sense since we didn't had anything serious but I said some words that I regret later. It was not swear but it was not nice from me.
You could have apologized later on. Sometimes it happens, if she is mature she would understand it.
Yes she did. Later we stay in contact but we never hooked up. But I know that incident let impression on her.
Hope the relationship gets better with time. Yes such incidents make a bad image of a person and it becomes tough and it takes time to rectify it.
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I agree. He needs someone to listen to all his sentiments and talk to.
Hmm...true. He should find someone with whom he may be able to share it. Hope he finds a person soon otherwise he will burst from disappointment inside.
This is a thing amongst millennials right now,we get to be confused with societies definition of relationships and programme ourselves in that regard.I really think a relationship when you are still in college and do not pay bills from your own pocket should be as basic as possible.But alot of people take the relationship to other levels and develop a certain level of ENTITLEMENT and even have lots of intimacy in the relationship.This makes one invest in emotions and sentimental attachment.
Only that leads to an emotional breakdown because you felt entitled in that relationship and yet not mature enough to respect and own up to that relationship from both ends.
A relationship requires you establish some ground rules and espectations and take everything step by step.
So if you can do an emotional needs assessment and try to establish what is making the person be emotionally broken then it would be easy to prescribe the right remedy.But am sure this is a young person and they are feeling the way they are feeling because of having a sense of ENTITLEMENT on something that was founded on immaturity and holywood style of dating.
Only that leads to an emotional breakdown because you felt entitled in that relationship and yet not mature enough to respect and own up to that relationship from both ends.
A relationship requires you establish some ground rules and espectations and take everything step by step.
So if you can do an emotional needs assessment and try to establish what is making the person be emotionally broken then it would be easy to prescribe the right remedy.But am sure this is a young person and they are feeling the way they are feeling because of having a sense of ENTITLEMENT on something that was founded on immaturity and holywood style of dating.
Yeah, that's true, he should be more socially active .
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I think it is not good to find a special someone at this point. He need to have self-love first.
Hey guys you cannot think for someone,I just said they need a needs assessment so that you try to understand what is making them feel that low.Only then can you make a recommendation on the right prescription to give them.Even anti-depressants could be given to them or just some form of closure or exposing them to go out quite often with friends and family.But only through a needs assessment can you try to find the right remedy for them.Someone who has done basics in psychology to help me out here .
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