Reasons you can't be in a polygamous marriage

[cherry123]

What are the reasons you wouldn't want to be a second or third wife even to a rich man. As a man why wouldn't you want to have more than a wife even with your financial stability?





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[Fidelia]

When you are in a polygamous marriage, you are just one of the options in the harem. And you would not have same value as being an only wife.

 

[Shavkat]

I think it is not fair for a woman to share her man with the other women.

 

[Bisolami]

When you are in a polygamous marriage, you are just one of the options in the harem. And you would not have same value as being an only wife.

I think this depends on the man because there are some men who know how to take good care of their home and they will never be a problem between the two wives

 

[Sawe]

I don't believe in a polygamous marriage because I believe in love being between just two people. When one says they romantically love more than one person, I tend to believe that that is lust, not love. That is just how I have grown to believe.

 

[Springtime]

I cannot accept that fact that I have to share my partner with another person. True love to me is between two people. In addition, polygamic marriage may create a lot of family problems.

 

[cherry123]

it is always the family problems for me. The man would leave trails of problems behind as they kick the bucket

 

[Ofonime]

Am a man but I will tell you that there is no way in this planet earth that I can marry two wife, thou my tradition welcome it but I will never be part of that it's a divided attention

 

[cherry123]

Yes,it is a divided attention for people involved in it. You just have to be focused in life to achieve a lot

 

[Stardom22]

For me l can't be in a polygamous marriage because my religion doesn't allow that.

 

[cherry123]

Yes some people can't go into it because of religion. Christianity does not allow polygamy which is fir our own good

 

[arunima]

I can't even withstand the idea of sharing my husband with another woman. Some traditions and cultures welcome it. But personally even if I would have been born into one of those cultures and religions, I would have opposed it fiercely. I can't let the romantic attention divided. Moreover, it will come with other financial problems and also some comparison sort. None of these sound like a good option for a healthy relationship.

 

[Unyime]

I need all the attention to myself. You would get to suffer all forms of neglect in a polygamous marriage because everything has to go round the co wives.

 

[Ratine]

For me l am a Christian and being guided by the bible that l am entitled to one man one wife.

 

[eldavis]

Dealing with one partner is hard enough, I don't think I have the energy to deal with multiple ones..

 

[cherry123]

From the comments here it seems it's really a bad idea to go into a polygamous marriage. I wouldn't even consider that

 

[Ratine]

Polygamy is the route cause for all the evil associated with the families for that matter.

 

[Mike30]

Just a different point of view from most posts here.

Most say they would't be able to share the love. My question about this argument, as parents, aren't we already sharing our love with our kids?
As a son, aren't we taught that our parents love us all the same?
From this point of view, love can be shared, and actually, when love is shared in a family, it works spectacular and it's the source of all kind of good things.

Then, why that can't be applied to polygamous marriage??? What makes you think it does't work? Do you already got the experience to tell or critique? There are cultures that already practice this for thousands of years, and they still prevail as a society.

 

[freelancermaria]

I refuse to be a second or third wife. I want to be the only one my husband loves. Being in a polygamous marriage is not right; it is messy.

 

[Ratine]

I can see that the economy in my country is getting very tight day by day for one to marry second wives.