It does not matter what people say, what matters is you are happy with what you are doing, right? If you are happy with someone older than you, so be it, don't mind their hairy tongue. What matters is you are happy with the man of your choice. If you are also happy with your lifestyle for example going to the mall wearing shorts, don't mind the eyes of the people, what matters is you feel comfortable, right? Unless your action is inappropriate, then that also matters a lot. Let us do what makes us happy but normal and standard for the eyes and ears of the people in our environment.